Month: March 2007

Death: a relief

This is a topic about which I’ve been thinking for some time, but dared not author a post about it until now.I wanted Mom to die. When I saw her quality of life dissolve in a matter of 2 weeks, when I saw her bed bound, when she no longer could read a book, when …

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Mom the geek

My grandmother — my mother’s mother — immigrated to Minnesota through North Dakota, from Saskatchewan, Canada by covered wagon. I remember Grandma telling me about circling the wagons and digging trenches at night to ward off attacks. Her daughter — my mother — was comfortable with the Internet.I first introduced Mom to computers in 1997, …

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Mom finished her marathon yesterday at 5:15 p.m.Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and may perpetual light shine upon her.May her soul, and the souls of the faithfully departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

24 hours to heaven

Mom’s hospice nurse came by yesterday, and confirmed that Mom was very close to the end. She estimated that Mom would die within 24 hours, but then pointed out that Mom has surprised all of us before. After all, we’re now on Bonus Day 13. Today is the 1-week anniversary of Mom’s last food. Tomorrow …

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Good grandkids

Mom has 4 grandchildren, 2 of whom, because of proximity or health, have been unable to develop or continue their relationship with her. The other 2 — my daughter and nephew — have made me so proud in the past several months since Mom’s diagnosis.Mom has loomed large in both of their lives. In my …

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When my Dad died nearly 27 years ago, the hospice movement was just taking root in the U.S. I’d read about it, and at one point suggested to Mom that she consider it for Dad. She looked at me with utter horror, and made quite clear that she and the medical providers would take care …

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